“…I wanna hold em’ like they do in Texas Plays
Fold em’ let em’ hit me raise it baby stay with me (I love it)
Luck and intuition play the cards with Spades to start
And after he’s been hooked I’ll play the one that’s on his heart…
I’ll get him hot, show him what I’ve got…
Can’t read my…
No he can’t read my poker face (She’s got to love nobody)
Can’t read my…I wanna roll with him a hard pair we will be,
A little gambling is fun when you’re with me (I love it)
Russian Roulette is not the same without a gun
And baby when it’s love if it’s not rough it isn’t fun, fun…
I won’t tell you that I love you
Kiss or hug you, Cause I’m bluffin’ with my muffin…”

So if this is what modern women are buying into (which we all are at some level) then the answer is in the pursuit. The theory goes like this: If we’re vulnerable with a man then we’re seen as week, if we search for love then we will be disappointed, if we show our hand too early then he’ll be frightened off and sex is what he wants. Now only if we can learn how to have casual sex like a “man” with no attachment. Then compact that with lie we tell one another that eventually the casual sex man will magically turn into a relationship man. No matter what most women may say we truly don’t love playing this sick game but somehow have convinced ourselves it’s a survival skill. Consequently, we find exactly what we’re searching for and are the very cause of our own unhappiness. Plus, face it there are a lot of assholes out there.

Obviously there’s a lot more to this topic but the popularity of this song has been driving me crazy for awhile now, too bad it’s so catchy.

http://www.crosscurrents.org/berryspring2003.htm